John: ’I thought that the minute I started seeing someone I would have to leap into bed and I never thought that I’d end up friends with a whole lot of people.’
Fraser: ’I was really scared about the first time, what would we do and it wasn’t brilliant, the earth did not move, but he knew it was my first time and it was a real milestone for me because I know better what to expect and now I feel it can only get better.’
Bryan: ’I couldn’t relate to two men having relationships. You think there’s only sex. And to begin with I can remember thinking ’I want a man to have sex with and a woman to have the relationship part with.’ Then you realise that you can be close to a man. And I think that everyone thinks all gay men are interested in is sex - but that’s not all of it. It’s like my friend says, what you need is a good man to love you. That’s what I want, like everyone else, someone to love me and to love.’
Keith: ’There was the idea that relationships just don’t happen - gay men want sex, not relationships. But then you find out there are people who have been going out with people for years. It seems exactly the same as everywhere else.’
Dale: ’I thought that all men did in bed together was sex and for me at the time that was disgusting and then you find men aren’t bothered about doing that at all and no one has ever tried to force me to have sex. It’s much more of a loving, caring thing than I thought, too.’
Tim: ’I definitely thought that sex would be a big element of a gay relationship. Every time you met a new partner, you’d think, here we go I didn’t think that men actually kissed each other or held hands or in any way touched each other, other than to turn each other on. That was what I thought at the time. And it’s like they do what everyone else does, really.’
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