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Tim: "You’ve probably been brought up thinking that everyone, including yourself, is straight."

Kevin: "Being gay is something you might discover about yourself as you grow up - it’s unlikely to be a sudden feeling"

Brian: "Although it might be something you suddenly have a name for… you realise what it is you’ve been feeling for years."

John: "Working out you are gay will probably take a long time, and may involve very difficult feelings."

Spencer: "And wishing that you could be the same as everyone else."

Peter: "This means lots of people act as if they’re straight - you lead a sort of double life."

Fraser: "You’ll probably discover that many people don’t seem to like people who are gay, so it can be very difficult to like yourself if you think you might be gay."

A lot of us have experienced most of these feelings. It hasn’t been easy but it does get better.

Liam: "It was just complete terror that someone would find out, that people would be able to tell. I was very paranoid - even in my diary - I wouldn’t even write it in there. And my diary had a great big padlock on it. It was absolutely terrible."

Adrian: "I thought maybe if I go out with girls then I wouldn’t have these feelings about men any more. At the time when I was younger, I felt horrible about it. So I started seeing girls, having relationships. And then it came to the crunch. By being with this girl I was actually just using her. And I couldn’t pretend any longer."

Dave: "For a long time the problem I had was accepting that I wasn’t straight and everything that implies, all the things I wasn’t going to have like marriage and children. But I didn’t want to accept it."

There isn’t an easy way through these feelings. If they carry on for a long time, you will probably want to talk to someone else about them. Most of us talked to a friend first. A few of us talked to a brother or sister.

 

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